Be the parent to educate the reality of our society

Two scenarios:

A) Your child is a bully.

B) Your child is being bullied.

What is worse?

One of my biggest fear as a parent is my child fitting into scenario A or B. In today’s age, bulling is much more serious and scarier than it EVER was. I fear that I will fail as a parent. I spoke to my colleagues at work whose kids are much older now. They tell me “your child will not be a bully, because that’s not the type of person / parents you and your husband are. Ultimately, it is who they hangout with and the situations they put themselves in”. My colleagues tell me not to worry too much because you can’t prevent everything. They asked me what if your kid was in a accident. I am sorry, but an accident is not preventable. If my kid was bullied, I FEEL THAT IT 100% PREVENTABLE.

**I do agree with my colleagues however, that answer may of been the answer 20 years ago. That advice is NOT going to fix what we are facing with today. The real way to stop bullying in this generation is to teach your children the reality of society.

The reality is:

It’s okay to be colored.

It’s okay to love someone the same sex.

It’s okay to love someone a different color.

It’s okay to feel that you should be a different gender you are born as.

It’s okay to fail!

It’s okay to be skinny / thicker.

Depression is real.

Educate – educate- educate.

How many articles do us millennial parents have to read about kids committing suicide before it’s too late?

How many times do we have to frown and tear reading an article about a situation that is completely preventable?

Us millennial parents need to take a stand! We are the generation that can CHANGE this.

Most of my “Mom Blogger” followings on Instagram are parents who are my age. We spend so many hours a day trying to influence each other. We have the technology and power to educate this topic, instead of hiding from it. We need to stop pretending “this will not happen to my kid”.

How do we fix this? We need to teach our kids to be scenario “C”.

Scenario C)

Be the kid who stands up. Be the one to stick up and stop it. Be the parent to educate the reality of our society.

This way our kids do not have to suffer from scenario “A” or “B”.



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MOM Budget- Things you should NEVER pay full price for.

Hello Everyone! It’s been so LONG!

Cheaper is better.  Free is for Me.

A good friend of mine is a big “Coupon’er”.

Since she started she made me realize, “why pay full price for this”. For 2 years now, the following items are things you should NEVER PAY FULL PRICE ON. Instead, use that money to buy your kids some delicious snacks!

  • Toothpaste  ( This is a BIG one for our house)
  • Dish Detergent
  • Laundry Soap (even Tide Pods)!
  • Diapers
  • Body Wash
  • & If you’re not picky, you can get hair soap for cheap & sometimes free. Brands like- Pantene, Treseme, and Head and Shoulders.

For starters, I like to coupon at CVS. As a mom, you just do not have the time as you use to. I just want to go in and out of the store! CVS is the perfect place to do that at.

Things to do:

  • Download the CVS App ( I believe all new downloaders will receive Extra Reward Bucks)
  • ** Extra Reward Bucks is like free money. The trick is to buy items where you can receive extra reward bucks, so that you pay less out of pocket.**
  • Review Weekly Ads. Certain weeks are better to buy certain items. Cvs is better to coupon at VS. Walmart because items go on sale. Items can be 2 for $4.00, where as Walmart is always a “Cheaper” price. You can actually save more when items go on sale to buy more. Reason is, you can use up to 4 of the same coupons in one transaction (must buy 4 to use all four).
    • -For example, an item can go on sale for 2 for $4.00 and if you have (2) coupons for  $1.00 off, you can use both and pay $2.00 total. The best part is if you have Extra reward bucks or CVS store coupons (Printed out at the store. Different than MFG. Coupon)  you can pay even less or the item is FREE! Even better, if the item is a weekly feature you can earn extra reward bucks back for your next transaction or just save them! So it’s like getting money back! SO WHY NOT! The items I listed are ALWAYS on sale like this.

Where to get MFG. Coupons:

  •  Check your mail! Check your weekly circulars. Look at your Redplum and SmartSource.
  • (this is what I use mostly, because I only really coupon on items I listed)  Print on multiple computers, so you can have more coupons.
  • Check your Sunday newspaper! They always have coupons! Some Sunday newspaper providers mail their coupons on Saturdays.
  • GO ON for tips and weekly features! This website is phenomenal. It’s a great site that lists all sales and what coupon / how many coupon you should use. (See image below)
  • ALWAYS print the store coupons at the red machine! You can always combine store coupons with manufacturing coupons.


Use one $0.50/1Colgate Toothpaste 3 oz or larger from SS 5/21
And use one $2.50/1 Select Colgate Toothpaste, CVS Coupon from CVS Extracare Coupon Center Week 5/21

Final Price: Free

Have a great time guys! Let me know if you have any questions!


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I truly feel like I made the right choice by not picking the first school I had in mind for Porter.

Dear Parents

Picking the “Perfect” school was not easy.

The school we picked for Porter was not our first choice.

FaceBook gives this place a 3.5 out of 5 star rating. The school I really wanted Porter to go to has a 4.5 almost 5 star rating. I initially wanted Porter to go to that school SO BAD! The tour was great, the curriculum was amazing,  the director was welcoming, it was what I thought was “everything”.

It was everything until they told me the tuition cost. Holy crap $$#@^&%&#^ – Childcare is mortgage money. 

So the search began- you could find a less focused daycare center for $30-$50 cheaper than a daycare with a strong curriculum. The way I looked at it was that’s only $10.00 less per day. Why not pay a little extra for something better?

My best suggestion for any parents who are looking for childcare for your little one is to read reviews after your tour. If you read reviews after you tour a place, you’ll be able to visualize and understand what/who the reviews refer to.

Pick the worst reviews ( the 1 or 2 star reviews) and really ask yourself, “does this affect my child? Am I potentially putting my child at risk?” If the bad reviews do not harm your kid, maybe it’s worth a shot?


For example-

The bad reviews @ Porter’s school was more about the director. They mentioned how she was mean, unwelcoming, and her attitude was poor. A few parents even withdrew their child because of the director’s attitude. After meeting the director, I can see why people may be offended. I agree, the director was a little scattered but I can see why. The reviews mentioned how the teachers are great. There was no bad review about the teachers. To me, that is more valuable. In the end, the director isn’t involved with Porter. She just collects and run a business. It is the atmosphere, cleanliness, and teachers that what matters the most. So we took a risk!!

Today was Porter’s first day of school! I truly feel like I made the right choice by not picking the first school I had in mind for Porter. I saved $250.00 a month!

Porter had a rough start, but I know he will easily adjust. I am confident that putting Porter into childcare was a great decision. He will now be more stimulated and sociable.

Check what they offer! Updates and pictures throughout the day while I am at work. Not going to lie- I teared the first picture.

Until next time!





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To my old friends, I love you to the end.

The past two years, I’ve been so caught up on “growing up”, I am afraid others forgot who I truly am.

Trying to aim that full-time job, trying to be that picture perfect wife, mom, & worker has changed me.

But I am still that Nicky you know & can trust.

I do not regret any decisions I have made, but I am upset that others feel that I have forgot about them.

What makes me unique is I’ll always know my roots and where I came from. I will never forget how I was raised and who I grew up with.

My past is what made me who I am today.

To my old friends, I love you to the end.




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My son- I love you. Happy 1st Birthday!

Dear Our Little Porter,
In two days you will be 1 year old! Happy Birthday son.

Here is everything you’ve learned in 12 months:

  • How to love & hug
  • You understand Lao more than English
  • You know how to slap mama (pretty hard)
  • Uh-Oh is your favorite word
  • You said “Da (da-da) still no Ma-Ma yet
  • You love music and dancing
  • Rice is your favorite
  • Your “girlfriend’s” name is Selena
  •  You can walk more then 10 steps at a time!
  • You’re freakishly talented in hockey
  • Sticks & Balls all day long!

Everything else is pretty standard.

Yesterday was February 11 of 2017. Two days before your actual birthday. We had what mommy and daddy thought would be a “small gathering” (it was actually pretty darn big)  for your birthday. It was awesome! We had so much food and we were surrounded by the people who love you the most!

I wanted to do something creative and special for you as your birthday gift.

We got you a scrapbook. We will give you the scrapbook as a high school graduation gift. Everyone who attended your birthday signed you a note and took a picture with you. This was a great way to capture who was in our lives in 2016. I am reading through these notes, and man… I can’t wait for you to read them at 18 years old!

A lot of people asked me what you need for your birthday. We are lucky to receive such great gifts, but my favorite is all the books you got! Instead of cards, mommy had everyone write you a love note in the book.

So now every time mommy reads you the book we will think of the person who got you the book.

I am all about the memories. 

I hope you had a great time. My son- I love you. Happy 1st Birthday!


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Now I know giving you your shots is the right thing to do…. but jeeze… Does anyone else question what exactly are in the vaccines they give our kids?

How many times does your little one get sick during their first year of life?

Dear Porter,

This past weekend you had your 5th cold this year. You are now 11 months. I question sometimes all of the  medical vaccinations and provided by our doctors. I know it’s for your best interest but do you really need all of the extra supplements?

For example, our doctor prescribed you fluoride. She did not really explain why we needed it. We just knew we had to give it to pick it up from the pharmacy and give it to you everyday. I gave it to you for the first 2 days. You were so fussy after! I knew it did not sit with you well. I personally took you off of it. I even told the doctors during our next visit that I do not give it to you. They said “okay!” no problem? So if it was no problem, why did they give it to me in the first place? I paid for it, for what?

We also gave you your flu shots. After the second shot, you got sick. Is that a coincidence? You were perfectly fine the day of your shots. Then the exact day after, you became weak and got a fever!

Now I know giving you your shots is the right thing to do…. but jeeze…

Does anyone else question what exactly are in the vaccines they give our kids?






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Similac Deal Alert-My total for all four boxes should of been $27.44 however we paid $7.44!

Hello Moms!

At around 8 months my milk supply decreased a lot. I went from producing 28-30 oz a day to about 10-15 oz. Porter is now 11 months and drinks about 20-25 oz a day. In order for him to have enough milk we needed to start supplementing breastmilk with formula.

We tried a couple different kinds of formula. What worked best for us was Similac’s Like breastmilk formula. The powder works okay.. but he prefers the liquid one (so high maintenance).

We received four $5  check coupons in the mail. You can get this by signing up with Similac for special offers. Each box of Similac at Walmart is $6.86. (If you guys know where else I can purchase please share!)

These coupon checks works at Walmart! I was able to use all 4 checks. My total for all four boxes should of been $27.44  however we paid $7.44!  We saved! Winning!

Enjoy moms!


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Praise & love more. To be angry & to hate is a waste of time.

2017 Goals:

1- No make up Sunday! Let that skin breathe. I am a beauty hoarder! My husband can tell you, I just have way too much makeup (no such thing, huh?). This year I am all about being natural and wearing less makeup. Less is more is what they say. Wish me luck!

2- Spend less money on buying things we do not “need”. Instead spending more time outdoors with my family. I want Porter to see the world as early as possible. He may not remember, but I swear this will be a good way to prevent seasonal allergies for him.

3- Patience. Accept & tolerate.  I am short temper at times. I need to stop focusing on what is wrong, but instead focus on what is good. I constantly catch myself telling my husband, ” You did not do this, this is wrong, I can’t believe this” Instead, focus on the positive and push out the negative. Praise & love more. To be angry & to hate is a waste of time.

4- Drink more water… and WINE! I am not a drinker. Wine however, I have been loving lately. A couple of glasses a week will be good. It helps me relax. It is my sit back and chill time….. My husband always says ” I have no chill”…. DRINKING MORE WINE SHOULD FIX THAT BABY!

5- ANY SUGGESTIONS?!  I want to leave this up to any readers. What are your goals? Please give me some ideas! 



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Quite honestly, I am a little jealous of your babysitter.

Dear Porter,

When everyone told me ” It goes by fast”.. they weren’t kidding. How are you 10 months old already?

I feel that I do not get enough time in a day to watch you learn and grow. Quite honestly, I am a little jealous of your babysitter.

I believe there is no right or wrong way of parenting, but I believe some parents rush “to get it over with”.

Many parent’s have looked at me and judged that I do not put you into bed until 9:30 Pm.

Is it unhealthy? No. Here’s a simple breakdown:

I give you away to the babysitter 8 hours of the day. I leave you at 9:00 Am and come home to you at 5:30 PM. Most parents are happy to put their babies to sleep by 7:00-7:30…  If I were to follow that, that would leave me 2 out of 24 hours of a day with you. To put that into bigger perspective, that’s only 14 hours with you in a week. That’s less than 1 day! How in the world can I appreciate your growth and understand your strengths..?!? Sometimes it kills me when It’s my turn to pick you up from the babysitter and she is showing me your new skills you’ve learned, and I question ” When did you learn that?!”… How can I be your mom and not know when you learned how to clap, what commands you know, ect.

Back to what I was saying about parents rushing “to get it over with” I know this because sometimes I do too. I rush to come home to feed you, to bathe you, to play, and to put you into bed. But those are the days that work has drained me. But I promise to find the energy and strength to stay awake and really enjoy your company. Some parents love that their baby is sleeping by 7:30.. is that unhealthy? No. But, due to our life situation I cannot be with you all day, and I refuse to feel like “when did you learn that” feeling. Putting you to bed by 7:30 does not work for mom.

Now obviously I am only speaking for you as a baby. I know that when you become a toddler my time with you will expand. I know that it is because I cannot be with you is why I am posting this.

However, this is my perspective on why people says “It goes by fast”.



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It is a challenge I am still learning, but it is a skill that I want you to learn.


Dear Porter,

It hit me today… and it HIT ME HARD

Being genuine and real is so important in life. Being true to myself is what made who I am today.  I became a “mom blogger” for a authentic purpose, but it quickly and started to become fake. Today I asked myself, but why? What is my purpose? I realized I wanted something so artificial. I wanted a following and my past two posts where reviews and product related. Sure I love those products, but I created those posts for a following I really should not even care for. Why was I trying so hard to have so many people like what I was posting? Why was I posting products? THAT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH BEING YOUR MOM. I wanted immediate benefits from it. to  I got caught up on trying to get the “perks” of blogging and forgot why I even started. I quickly realized today, that’s not what I want. I created this blog because I genuinely love being a mom to you. I love being your mother, and I love how your father and I created a beautiful family. I realized my past two posts was not me showing you the joy of motherhood.  That is not me being true to myself. I am changing my purpose. My purpose is to be in this community of motherhood and relate to other moms the beauty and hardship of growing a strong family.

I want you to grow to be a strong individual. Obviously, you’re going to grow and make mistakes. I never want those mistakes happening because you were following others. I want you to make mistakes on your own and realize it was ON YOU. You will never be happy trying to impress others and trying to gain a following by doing something you truly do not love. It is a challenge I am still learning, but it is a skill that I want you to learn.

Be real.



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